08 May 2012

Fertility treatments in Europe

Edited at the bottom of this section.

About a month ago, Mel shared an article in Promt-ly about Fertility treatment bans in Europe and how these bans are drawing criticism.The article states the bans and restrictions on who can receive fertility treatments in different countries in Europe and how they are old and outdated.
Here's a quick breakdown of the countries mentioned and what they ban or allow:
- France & Italy ban single women and lesbians from artificial insemination & IVF
- Sweden, Germany & Italy ban artificial insemination (Denmark, Spain & Belgium allow it)
- Austria & Italy ban all egg & sperm donations for IVF (Many couples travel to the Czech and Slovak republics and Spain instead if this is needed)
- Germany & Norway ban donating eggs, but not sperm.
- Sweden (and other countries not mentioned) require couples to have a stable relationship for at least a year to qualify for fertility treatment
- Switzerland (and other countries not mentioned) requires couples to be married.
- Ukraine is the main exception in Europe where couples are allowed to use surrogates, most other countries ban it
- France, Italy, Switzerland (and other countries not mentioned) only allow one partner to be the child's legal father or mother in gay and lesbian couples

That's quite a few countries telling women and couples what they can't do with their own bodies.

One country that wasn't mentioned in this article and one that I am more familiar with, is Finland. And I know that Finland allows many of the above issues. The article seemed quite selective in which countries it used for its basis on the bans. It makes me wonder which other European countries are more in line with Finland on what they allow.

At the time that Mel shared this prompt with us, there were ads (picture above) in the city buses for one of the local private fertility clinics. The ad states that nearly 1 in 6 couples hope for a baby - in vain. And then they go on to say that you, the person reading this (male or female), could help your fellow people by giving the greatest gift of all, life! And then they tell the basic requirements you would  need to fulfil to donate and that the person will be compensated accordingly.

A few weeks later, I saw the below picture, for the same clinic, in our local newspaper. This ad was for the other end of the spectrum: those who want kids but are having trouble conceiving. The big frilly text says: What if the stork gets lost?. The clinic will be having open doors for people to come and hear about what the clinic does and for people to be able ask questions. There will also be a light brunch offered. In addition, the clinic states that usually a solution to childlessness is found, you just need to find the right procedure/method. And finally, sometimes the stork just needs a bit of directions on where to go, that's where the clinic will help.

I've not used a private clinic (as I was lucky to go the public route, more on that below), but looking at the clinic's ads and website, I can tell you for sure that donor eggs and sperm are allowed for use. I can also tell you that their website talks about single women and women couples who would like to pursue treatments. And as single and women couples are able to pursue treatments, I don't believe there is a set period of time how long a couple must try before they can be treated. (How would the be able to try? Unlike heterosexual couples...) Freezing embryos are also allowed (I have one little one on ice right now). The one thing that Finland does not allow (except in rare cases,) is surrogacy. I'm not 100% sure of the reason, but from what I under it has to do with legal issues.

Edit: Many of the countries that have such strict rules and bans against the different aspects of fertility treatments are the more religious oriented countries.
This section is about my own experience, rather than the bans and allowances of fertility treatments in Finland. Not quite on the same topic, but at least in the same vein.

My experiences (so far) with fertility clinics are a 1 time introductory visit to the above mentioned private clinic, for free. I checked this place out while I was waiting for my endo surgery, just over 2 years ago. As a result of my endo diagnosis (I think), I was referred to the local hospital's (public) Reproductive Endocrinology (RE) department, where we were able to get an appointment a month and a half later. (I've heard the waiting time can sometimes take 6 months or more just to get in there.)


The public system can (and at times does) take longer to get appointments. The public RE's are not open on holidays, weekends and take a full month summer holiday/break in July. On the other hand, everyone I met at the clinic was very nice, professional and willing to speak to me in English if/when I needed it. The prices are also much much cheaper! Each doctor visit was approximately 28€. And after I paid/spent 660€ in medications (per year), my prescription medicines would be 1,50€ each (with a letter from the Finnish social system). This deduction in medications would happen to anyone, regardless of where you are being treated.

I know there are some restrictions that apply to the public RE system in Finland, as opposed to the private sector, but I'm not sure what they all are. I do know for example that a couple needs to have seriously tried for at least a year and have a referral to get into the public clinic. I'm not sure if the couple needs to be married or not (many Finns don't get married), as Mr Siili and I are married, the subject never came up. In the public RE system, they will generally only do 3-4 IUIs and 3 fresh cycles of IVF (plus any FETs you have). I also know that you have to work around the holidays and weekends, which has caused a canceled cycle or two for me. As with other public health sectors here in Finland, you don't always have one doctor specifically assigned to you; you get who is in that day.

While I know Finland is quite different than other countries, I've not had any bad experiences with the public RE system nor any of the staff there. (There was one doctor I didn't like as much as the others, but she was still nice and very knowledgeable.) I feel very fortunate that it all worked out for me and Mr Siili as in Nov/Dec of last year were were on our 3rd and final fresh IVF cycle which produced this pregnancy (with one frozen one to spare). We can't wait to bring home our little Paxlet later this summer.

04 May 2012

TGIF + Paxlet picture update

*phew* I am so glad I didn't promise to get the weekly Paxlet picture updated last night, seeing how I just now got it added (Friday at 2:30pm).

This has been a short work week for me, but still very busy and long days. As usual, I am thankful it is Friday! It also means I'll probably be in bed by 9 or 10pm. Mr Siili and are just THAT exciting. LOL

03 May 2012

24 weeks + 1 day

I got too tired and lazy to publish this last night. In fact, I didn't even get pictures taken last night. So, I'm posting this today and getting pictures up this evening. I promise! I will do my best to follow through with getting the pictures up this evening. *cheeky grin*

It's back to work today. I had a nice and relaxing 4 day weekend in honor of Vappu, Finland's Labor Day aka Walpurgis Night aka May Day , yesterday. Only the 1st of May is a holiday, but I took Monday off also, just because. The main thing you need to know about Vappu is that it is a huge celebration that is undertaken by engineering students, but definitely not limited to them. For the students, the partying begins a week or so in advance, but for the rest of the population it starts on April 30th. Celebrating entails lots of alcohol (especially sima (a sweet mead that is easy to make at home), sparkling ciders and whatever else tickles your fancy) and lots of drunk people. In my opinion, it is best to stay home or at a friend's house, which is exactly what I did. On Monday went to the stores early in the day (to beat the crowds) and then I hung out at home the rest of the day. On Tuesday, I spent most of it at a friends house eating way too much, playing games and generally just having a good time.
Total Weight Loss/Gain: I have no idea this week, as I forgot to check the scales this morning. but I am sure I've gained at least a bit of weight.
Update: So I didn't weigh myself yesterday, but I did this morning. Starting weight: 66kg, this morning: 75kg. Holy cow! That's 3 kilos in one week!!! Not that I'm complaining, I was just surprised. But, it might also explain why my bump is much more visible these last few days.

Maternity Clothes: I bought a second-hand maternity support belt this past Monday. I've only used it for a quick walk to the stores, but it sure seemed to work. My belly didn't feel tired after that.

I have a jean skirt (that used to be bell bottoms, which my mom made into a skirt for me when I ripped the butt out one day) that I've had since I was in high school (18 years ago). Yes, this skirt still fits, or at least fit until recently. Today, I think I'm wearing it for the last time for a while. It still fits, but I have not zipped it up one bit and I've tucked the zipper flaps inside the skirt and worn a long shirt. It looks quite cute, but it isn't 100% comfy. Just in case, I brought my favorite pair of maternity pants to change into...

As for other clothes, some shirts just aren't long enough anymore. LOL

Stretch marks: Still no stretch marks and I'm not complaining. I have noticed that my belly button is getting more and more shallow. I truly hope it doesn't become an outtie. Outties just give me the creeps. Sorry if you have one, it's nothing personal! Belly buttons have always been a weird thing for me, especially when the umbilical cord is still attached to wee infants. Gives me the heebie jeebies.

Sleep: It's definitely getting harder to sleep comfortably and for longer periods of time (say, through the night!), even if I don't have to get up and go pee! I'm feeling quite exhausted most evenings and naps are my friends, usually.

Movement: Paxlet is a wiggler! I feel him move off and on throughout the day. His kicks and punches are getting stronger. The weirdest feeling kicks are when he kicks straight down into my lady bits (have I written this already?). He did some light kicks down there today while I was at work and man, it's all I can do to not wiggle.

Cravings/Aversions: No cravings of any sort at the moment. I'm not even really feeling the desire to eat pickles like I was a few weeks ago.

Gender: It's a boy!!

Symptoms: My tummy is definitely getting bigger. If I wear the right clothes (not the flowy dress I wore during the weekend), you can definitely tell I am pregnant. There's no more guessing if I've just gotten a bit chubby or if there is something going on in there. I've also noticed today that it's getting a bit uncomfy to sit at my desk. I seem to lean into the desk, pushing my bump right at the belly button into the desk. What's going to happen as I get even bigger? LOL

My back and neck are usually sore these days and more-so in the morning when I wake up. I just can't sit so much or for so long. I need to start taking short breaks more often at work and walk around a bit. Putting a cold pack on the areas seems to help, I just need to remember to do it more often.

What I miss: I've been trying to think of things that I miss and the ones I come up with are quite plain and silly: bending over easily (to pick something up or tie my shoes), getting a very uncomfortable bloated feeling if I eat too much (duh, don't eat too much!) or the fact that my breasts have gotten to huge (yes, it's for a good thing, but I didn't like my breasts before this).

What I look forward to: I am so very much looking forward to being moved into our new home at the end of the month. What I am NOT looking forward to is the packing and actually moving and these few weeks before it.

In a curious and try something new sort of way I am looking forward to the diabetes test in a few weeks. I've heard mixed reviews on the test (some like the drink, some don't) and as with all things pregnancy, I'm totally enjoying trying everything, at least once.

Moods: Feeling quite well this week. A bit weepy off and on, usually triggered by something I read or see on TV, but nothing too bad.

Milestones: Paxlet is the size of a papaya (still?!) or an ear of corn! I've also come to understand that if Paxlet were to decide to come into this world now, he'd have a 50-50 chance of survival. Not the best of odds, but they are getting better by the day!

I read that Paxlet's taste buds are forming and that he could be developing "a weakness for sweets". If that is the case, I don't think it is "developing". In this case it will be more like inheriting it from me and my mom. *giggle*

Misc: It's month end closing at work which means lots of work and longer days. Thankfully I've got chocolate with me. Yum! Although, I wonder if this bit of extra chocolate and sweets is what helped me gain 3kg this last week. I have also been more hungry lately. I try to eat healthier snacks, but some not so healthy ones make their way into my mouth too. It's all for a good cause though. Hehehe

This week's bump pictures can be seen in the Paxlet Pictures tab.

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