tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-49310433456466650632024-02-19T04:59:01.667+02:00BattleFishSometimes I'm a BattleFish and it's me against the world.<br><i>And if there wasn't a world to fight against, I'd fight myself, at least that's what my husband says.</i>JustHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05373768249873098150noreply@blogger.comBlogger391125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931043345646665063.post-34885095875464205042013-01-13T16:39:00.001+02:002013-01-13T16:39:09.269+02:00Moving to WordPressI've finally gone and done it! I've moved blog to WordPress. There are still a few things to work out, but for the most part, I'm slowly getting the hang of it and I'm decently happy with how it looks.<br />
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It is still the same old <a href="http://rowan6.wordpress.com/">Battlefish</a>, just with a new URL. If you'd like to keep following me, please find me at <a href="http://rowan6.wordpress.com/">http://rowan6.wordpress.com/</a>.<br />
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The biggest reason for moving to WordPress is the ability to make some posts private, while leaving the rest public. With the private posts, I think I'll be more willing to share some pictures of Paxlet. If you follow me and would like to see private posts, email me at jsththr @ gmail and I'll let you know the password for them.<br />
<img src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjS0zHxaBu7KAZDI0ulJBzGx68AKPT5HPhdzZfTsug2Zsckhe1Q652MEFWYoWZ89mpn2vEZXJ4EZOM0ly9AAqE0Gqp9oQ45G2mkrgRfqiTadobigutw0UiVagtBikVhQbTRIBXAFmx8JeY/" />JustHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05373768249873098150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931043345646665063.post-69225100245895999072013-01-09T16:26:00.001+02:002013-01-09T16:26:54.815+02:00Tapioca pudding: it was just so yummy, I couldn't help myselfYesterday, Paxlet had his 4 month check up. He weighed in at 7 kilos and 935 grams (~17,5 pounds) and measured 65 centimeters (25,6 inches). When the doctor did her examination of him, she checked his moro reflex. Let me just say that Paxlet hated that, with a passion!! He screamed worse than bloody murder and even when I picked him up to try and calm him, it took me longer than normal. When he was laid back down to continue the exam, he started crying and then screaming again. After the exam was over and I was dressing him up, he didn't want to be laying in my lap, but more so, he kept twisting his head and body to see where the doctor was. Paxlet also told the doctor what he thought of her. It's pretty cute in a sad sort of way. I don't think he wanted that lady anywhere near him.<br />
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Today I had a quick doctor's appointment. I was in with the doctor maybe 8 minutes total. At around 12 weeks of Paxlet's age (he'll be 19 weeks tomorrow), I started noticing some white-ish/yellow-ish discharge. It sometimes smells/smelled a bit, but nothing alarming. Also, I have had no other symptoms. No itching, fever, rash, bad smell, tenderness, etc. I wasn't too worried about it, but it was something different than what I am used to and what I've had before. So, I made an appointment to get it checked out. The doctor said all looks healthy and normal. If anything changes I'm to go back. I'm thinking this is just my 'new normal'.<br />
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After the doctor's appointment this morning, when Paxlet and I got home, I made some tapioca pudding. As soon as it was ready and in the fridge to cool, we left home again to go to our weekly Wednesday mom & kid group. Then, when we got home in the afternoon, I ate my half of the tapioca. (The box says one batch makes 6 1/2 cup servings.) I ate a bit of lunch, changed Paxlet's diaper, twice and played online a bit. I then decided that I had to eat the other half of the tapioca. I mean, I just couldn't stand the idea of Mr Siili eating it in front of me this evening and me not having any to eat. Plus, what he doesn't know (that I made tapioca) won't hurt him, right?! Bad me! LOL<br />
<img src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjS0zHxaBu7KAZDI0ulJBzGx68AKPT5HPhdzZfTsug2Zsckhe1Q652MEFWYoWZ89mpn2vEZXJ4EZOM0ly9AAqE0Gqp9oQ45G2mkrgRfqiTadobigutw0UiVagtBikVhQbTRIBXAFmx8JeY/" />JustHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05373768249873098150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931043345646665063.post-24699727864085869612013-01-07T09:34:00.000+02:002013-01-08T00:08:49.408+02:002013 request Can I make a request of all of my readers/commenters so early on in
2013? Often I read your comments on my posts and would LOVE to send you
a reply via email but your email is not listed on your webpage.<br />
Pretty
please with a cherry on top could you update your profile/about me/etc
to show your email address?<br />
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(If i ever get around to figuring Wordpress out, I'll be able to get emails automatically via their comment generator.)<br />
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(Thanks KT at <a href="http://nonsequiturchica.blogspot.fi/2013/01/2013-request.html">Non Sequitur Chica</a> for the words.)<br />
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Before everyone had kids, we'd get together semi-regularly at one another's house or in a pub to chat and eat. It's been ages since that has happened. To remedy this situation, I thought I'd have a play date at our house! And what better way to start the new year than to have it in January (20th to be exact), after all the hubbub of the holidays has died down. <br />
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In order to try and be more accommodating to everyone's daily schedules, I stated that from 11am-ish until 4pm-ish is the time for people to come over for as long as they wish and fits their schedule. I figured if Paxlet is awake, great! If not, oh well, I really just want to see my friends...and uh...their kids too.<br />
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I sent the email out on December 20th, a whole month in advance, as
that is what seems to be needed these days. I know two mom&kid(s)
won't be coming for sure, one has said she'd come and a couple others
will try to make it. The rest haven't replied. I sure hope more people
will show up.<br />
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In the mean time, I need to get our downstairs area mobile-kid-proofed! <br />
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This is a change: I'm feeling sad for someone else and happy for myself. It still isn't a great feeling.<br />
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cookies for xmas. I just got tired of stressing over what to get them
and giving them something that they probably didn't want anyway. So,
they now get cookies. I figure that even if they don't like all of the
cookies, they will hopefully like some of them. Plus, they can pass them
on to someone else and they won't be stuck with yet another thing that
collects dust.<br />
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This year I made 4 different types of cookies and they are not something I have gifted before. <br />
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In the top left corner (clockwise) are the original Kellogg's <a href="http://www.ricekrispies.com/en_US/default.html#/en_US/recipes/the-original-treats">Rice Krispie Treats</a>, <a href="http://christmas.yourway.net/holiday-pinwheel-cookies/">Holiday Pinwheel cookies</a> from <a href="http://christmas.yourway.net/">Christmas Your Way</a> blog, Chocolate-Marshmallow-Fudge-thingies from my friend and White Chocolate & Raspberry Cake Pops (without the sticks). <br />
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The recipes for the first two can be found by following the links. The recipe for the chocolate-thingies from my friend can be found below. And the cake pops were sort of my own creation using a couple of sources for hints and tips and a cupcake mix & topping packet. I know there are many recipes out there for them right now as there are the 'in' thing, but if someone would like more details on what I did, I'd gladly share my process.<br />
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All of the cookies were easy to make, some of them just took a little bit of time, such as the pinwheels and cake pops. To help things along, I made cake pop innards on the 21st (Friday) and they firmed up over night, the chocolate-things on the 22nd. The pinwheel dough was prepped (rolled & cut) at the beginning of December and then frozen until I wanted to bake them on the 23rd (Sunday). The cake pops were rolled in melted chocolate on Saturday so that they could set up over night. The Rice Krispies were fully made on the 23rd.<br />
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<b>Chocolate-Marshmallow-Fudge-thingies recipe</b><br />
(I have no idea what these are called, except for yummy!)<br />
Ingredients*:<br />
325g (11,5 ounces) Chocolate <br />
3dl (1 cup) marshmallows (They are different than the ones you can roast over a fire.)<br />
1,5dl (1/2 cup) <a href="http://www.candyking.com/Candyking/templates/Candyking_productPage.aspx?id=1704&epslanguage=EN">Vanilla Fudge</a> squares<br />
15 x 30cm (6 x 12 in) pan<br />
parchment/baking paper<br />
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Break the chocolate into pieces and put in a microwave safe bowl. Microwave in 30 second intervals, stirring in between until all the chocolate is just melted. Don't over heat the chocolate. Stir in the marshmallows and vanilla fudge squares. (If the chocolate gets too hot, you have to wait a bit before you can add the marshmallows to the mix or they will melt.) Spread the mixture into your lined pan and let cool. If you want it cooled faster, stick it in the fridge for a bit. Once the chocolate is hard again, break it into pieces and serve!<br />
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*All measurements are rough estimates and you can substitute or add different items into this.<br />
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Paxlet is such a happy little boy. We get so many smiles and tons of laughter from him. He goes down for naps (best in his stroller) and bed time (on the boob) quite easily. We've not had to deal with colic. Nor has he had that much gas, especially after the first couple of weeks and even then that wasn't too bad. (More sad and pitiful than anything.) He's easy going, not very fussy and just all around happy. Mr Siili and I know we are lucky and are very thankful for this.<br />
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Except for the very few times, like tonight, when nothing seems to work. Paxlet is oh so very tired but we can't get him to sleep. I've put a clean diaper on him, changed him into his pajamas and laid down with him to give him a feed before he falls asleep. He ate, then puked a tiny bit. Paxlet then got a bit fussy, but that was because he drained the boob he was on and he was still hungry (so I thought). We switched boobs, he ate a bit more, spit up a bit (ate too much at once) and then he became fussy. He didn't want any more boob. I tried burping him, but that wasn't his issue. I tried feeding him in a different position, he only took a few sucks and fussed some more. I tried sitting him up, I tried laying him down with his dolphin and he only fussed and cried. I tried two different binkies, which he didn't want and they only made him cry and scream. I tried laying him down on the bed, with a binkie and he only screamed more. I let him be on the bed, screaming, because I couldn't think of what else to do with him. After he screamed, gasped, choked and screamed bloody murder for 3-ish minutes, tops. I couldn't handle it any more. And in that moment of desperation, I get it why/how some moms shake their kids. Not that I agree with that, but I get it. Thankfully, I took Paxlet to Mr Siili and here I am writing this trying to collect myself in order to take care of my crying baby some more.<br />
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Update a bit later:<br />
Paxlet fussed a bit more with Mr Siili, but he also goo'd and gaa'd with his dad. After 10 minutes or so of Paxlet not screaming, but being a little bit fussy, I went to collect him. Paxlet was still extremely tired, but he wasn't screaming anymore. Mr Siili and I wondered if it was the spiced/flavored chicken that I ate for dinner that upset his tummy. The few times Paxlet has really fussed and screamed seem to coincide with times that I've eaten something with spices in it or too much chocolate. I ate some bread with cheese and some cereal in hopes of getting that into my system and the chicken out or at least diluted (no idea if it really works that way, but I did it anyway). Paxlet and I came back upstairs, I fed him a bit more and he passed out immediately. He's right now laying next to me in bed peacefully sleeping.<br />
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<a href="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2013/01/creme-de-la-creme-of-2012/" target="_top"><img alt="Creme" src="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/2012-Creme-Badge-3.png" /></a> </div>
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The <a href="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2013/01/creme-de-la-creme-of-2012/">2012 Creme de la Creme</a> list is now up and ready to read*.<br />
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The Creme de la Creme list showcases the best of the ALI (Adoption, Loss / Infertility) community blogs, chosen by the blog writers themselves. The 2012 list is closed for entries, but if you'd like to participate in the 2013 line-up, keep an eye out for Mel's sign-up announcement at the <a href="http://stirrup-queens.com/">Stirrup Queens</a> in October. Don't forget to write, write and write some more on your blog so you have a selection to choose your best from. Happy writing. <br />
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*It was posted yesterday, January 1st, 2013.<br />
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I had been thinking what to write as my last post of 2012, but never really got anywhere and then it came time to think what to write as my first post in 2013. I still don't have a clue what to write as I don't feel like hashing out 2012 nor do I feel like speculating on the future. Don't get me wrong, 2012 was an amazingly wonderful year for me and us. I'm also sure this coming year(s) will be great too. So, I'll leave you all with the following... <br />
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HAPPY NEW YEAR!<br />
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...and just get on with it. <br />
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I thoroughly enjoy watching this little being grow and learn. How often does one get to see the world through the eyes of an infant where everything is so new? Sure some days are harder than others and I do get a bit frustrated at times, but those moments are thankfully fleeting, especially when Paxlet gives me a huge slobbery grin. <br />
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<b>Weight & Length:</b> We won't be heading in for a check up until the 8th of January, so the only figures I have are old ones. Paxlet's length from last month is 62,5 cm (24,6 in), but I do have a slightly more updated weight figure from December 12th. When we went in for his vaccinations, I asked for them to weigh him. He weighed 7 kilos 455 grams (16,4 lbs).<br />
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<b>Sleeping:</b> Paxlet sleeps well, once asleep, but he still isn't falling asleep on his own. While it is sometimes frustrating that he won't go to sleep on his own, he is ONLY 4 months old just now. We'll work on it and it will happen. Naps are easiest to get him down, because if all else fails, I can put him in the stroller and take him for a walk and he zonks out almost immediately.<br />
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He has also taken to needing a boob in his mouth most of the night. He
isn't eating the entire time, but he needs the boob there or at least accessible when he wants it. I get more sleep too when the boob is readily available. I don't mind
it so much, but my hips get sore and the position is just uncomfortable
to be in for that long.<br />
I've recently come across the term "4 month sleep regression", which I guess is what Paxlet could be going through. We don't have all the symptoms of a sleep regression, but enough and in Paxlet's own way, that I'm sure that this is what it is. My understanding of it is that due to infants going through a lot of changes right around 4 months (learning new things, new experiences, growth spurts, teething, etc.) that the sleep gets messed up. Not that ours was the greatest before, we don't get those fabled "all night sleeps" of 5 or so hours much less true all night. It doesn't bother me so much, as I can take a nap during the day if I want because I still don't have to be at work, but it sure would be nice to start getting a bit more regular sleep at night.<br />
These two links explain quite well, in my opinion, about what is going on around 4 months regarding sleep:<br />
<a href="http://www.troublesometots.com/">Troublesome Tots</a> - <a href="http://www.troublesometots.com/the-thing-about-sleep-regressions/">The Thing About Sleep Regressions</a> (This is a great blog!)<br />
<a href="http://kellymom.com/">KellyMom</a> - <a href="http://kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/4mo-sleep/">Wakeful 4 Month Olds</a> (good breastfeeding info)<br />
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<b>Eating:</b> He's a great eater! I'm planning on exclusively breast feeding until 6 months of age. I know things can change and if they need to, I'm ok with that.<br />
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Not quite eating, but it involves the mouth: Paxlet chews on everything! Toys, spit rags, clothes, towels, my hands, his hands and more. He has chewed/sucked on his hands so much that part of them are getting quite dried out. I'll need to remember to put lotion on them at night (and maybe some hand covers) to try and get them baby soft again. <br />
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<b>Diapers: </b>I think we're just going to be a disposable diaper family all the way. I'm too lazy and disposables are just to easy.<br />
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<b>Clothing:</b> He's still wearing size 60-68, although several 60's don't fit anymore and some others are getting tighter. I think I'll get to go second-hand shopping again soon!<br />
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<b>Hair: </b>This little boy is still pretty much bald. He's got some blond as can be short hair, but from farther away he still looks quite bald.<br />
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<b>Personality:</b> Paxlet is such an insanely happy baby! I know we, as parents, are quite biased, but many others have commented on this also. He's just always ready with a smile (unless he's just woken up...just like his momma). Paxlet will also let you know when he feels he's been wronged or something isn't to his liking.<br />
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<b>Milestones & Firsts*:</b> Not only is he following objects held in front of him, but he is noticing the entire world around him. This little boy just won't hold still. He wiggles and wiggles and turns his head to look at everything. Especially if daddy is holding him and momma is elsewhere. Paxlet has a mom-radar.<br />
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Paxlet loves it when he looks at someone and that person notices him back. But momma's attention is the best of all.<br />
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<i>...should be able to:</i><br />
on stomach, lift head up 90 degrees - this has only been happening the last week or so and not all the time<br />
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laugh out loud - this is so last month, but it doesn't mean I love it any less!<br />
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<i>...will probably be able to:</i><br />
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on stomach, raise chest, supported by arms - this is a bit hit and miss. He can do it, but not consistently<br />
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reach for an object - Before and while my dad and sister were here, Paxlet was grabbing things if you gave them to him. He was also sometimes reaching out in the general direction of objects, but it was very hit and miss if he actually grabbed something. But immediately after they left, Paxlet's concentration changed and he went from haphazardly grabbing things and sometimes getting them to focused attention on what he was aiming for and more often than not grabbing what he wanted. His movements are still a bit jerky, but he's grabbing at everything!<br />
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pay attention to an object as small as a raisin - we've not tested this one, but I'm sure he could, as his attention to objects is much more acute these days.<br />
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squeal in delight - and screeching! High pitch sounds are great fun right now.<br />
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<i>...may possibly be able to:</i><br />
keep head level with body when pulled to sitting - This has been possible for some time, but nowadays it happens all the time and his head control is much better.<br />
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roll over (one way) - This has been happening for a week or two now. He rolls from his back to his front (towards the right). In the last two days he's started half rolling to the other direction. In addition to rolling, when he gets on his tummy, he can scootch forward some. He puts his butt in the air and with his face in the blanket, pushes forward. He can also push himself sideways (as of just now for the first time as I was writing this while Paxlet was playing with Mr Siili).<br />
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<i>...may even be able to:</i><br />
bear some weight on legs when held upright - he's been "standing" for some time, but he definitely has more power and strength lately. He's really pushing with his legs and standing. He'll be sofa-surfing in no time. Eeps.<br />
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object if you try to take a toy away - Oh, yes! Although, it isn't so much toys that he objects to being taken away yet as it is boobs. Toys rate on a lower scale still.<br />
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<b>Likes:</b> Paxlet loves going upstairs. Anytime Mr Siili or I take him upstairs, for whatever reason, he gets very happy and wiggly. I'm not sure why, but I guess he must like what is up there: showers/baths, diaper and clothes changes and bedtime.<br />
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<b>Dislikes: </b>Getting shots. Last time he got his vaccinations, I held Paxlet on my lap and the nurse gave him a shot in his thigh. I turned Paxlet around for the next shot, but in the mean time Paxlet told the nurse, quite vocally and angrily what he thought of that shot. It would have been cuter if he wasn't hurting from it. Then he got his second shot and really cried. I quickly got my boob out and let him eat. Paxlet would take a few sucks, then stop and tell me what he thought about the shots, drink again for a few sucks and again explain his displeasure. After a couple of times of this he finally had a smile and nicer words for me (and the nurse). We're going to have a handful with this guy!<br />
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*I've been using the <i>What to Expect - The First Year </i>by Heidi Murkoff for a majority of the milestones, in addition to adding events/things Mr Siili and I have noticed not mentioned in the book. I'm mostly only sharing the ones that are new this month and not repeating everything, or this post will get very long!<br />
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I didn't get any candy for xmas,<br />
We were horrible first time parents and didn't take any "baby's first xmas" photos, <br />
I'm missing my mom,<br />
I only got a couple of gifts,<br />
We left our cats at home for the night so that there wasn't dog drama,<br />
Mr Siili and I argued more than I'd like (over mostly stupid crap) and<br />
the whole trip to the in-laws was rushed and stressful.<br />
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But really, those are just sorry excuses, well, all except for missing my mom. What I really should be thinking and remember is the following:<br />
I have the happy and healthy baby I've been wanting for years!,<br />
My dad and sister visiting earlier this month was a wonderful early xmas gift. Not to mention the brand new laptop and other items they brought for Paxlet and I,<br />
I have my health,<br />
I have a great husband (most of the time),<br />
We spent time at my in-laws, who made wonderful xmas food and even sent some of it home with us, including candies, brie and blue cheese!,<br />
Paxlet inched his way across the bed by himself for the first time (butt up in the air and then pushed himself forward, face down leaving a "snail slime trail") and<br />
I Skyped with my entire family in the US this evening.<br />
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Tomorrow's just another day and for that I'm very thankful. I hope everyone has enjoyed their holidays, whatever it is you celebrate. I'm just read to go back to my normal everyday life, starting right now, by going to bed.<br />
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Being that today is winter solstice, the shortest day of the year, it's an important day to remember up here in the north where the winters are long and dark. Thankfully where I live, we still see the sun for a few short hours each day, unlike way up north where they haven't seen the sun for a while and still won't see it for some time. Today, on this shortest day of the year, the sun rises at 9:42 and sets at 15:03 (that's 3:03pm) giving us 5 hours and 20 minutes of the sun above the horizon.<br />
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On that note, Paxlet and I are going to get dressed up, it's cold out (-14C / 7F), and head out to enjoy a bit of this rare daylight. We won't be seeing the sun as it is cloudy and snowy, but the lightness will be nice anyway.<br />
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I've given him a few ideas, but he doesn't like them because,<br />
1. he doesn't dare buy me jewelry, I'm way too picky (very true, even though I don't think he can go wrong with a Nomination link for my bracelet),<br />
2. he doesn't want to buy me household machines as he's sure I'd be happier if I picked it out myself (I need a new handheld mixer) and<br />
3. he won't even approach the subject of buying me clothing (although, I've not mentioned this, ever, but he is correct that I am very very picky about my clothes).<br />
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So, I'm curious to see what Mr Siili comes up with. As I said, in all honesty, I don't need or want anything more than what I already have. I wouldn't turn down a massage, though. But, if someone insists, some well spent family time and love from my two men would be great!<br />
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What's on your list this year?<br />
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A year ago, I had some psychologist appointments to help me come to terms with my mom's death and more pressing the fact that I may not become a mom myself. While I didn't care for the psychologist much herself, she did raise a few good questions and help me start processing things in my head. I am so thankful that my life didn't end up that way. I'm lucky, I know it.<br />
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I am one of the very fortunate ones. Not only did I finally get the long awaited BFP, but I had a very easy pregnancy that went full term (41 weeks and 2 days), the delivery was fast and uncomplicated and Paxlet has been a wonderful child without colic or major screaming fits. I know I have it good and I never forget it.<br />
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Paxlet and I put them on a bus this morning headed for Helsinki to catch their first flight towards home and I cried for over 30 minutes after that. I think the only reason I stopped when I did was because I started cleaning as soon as Pax and I got home. Hey, when the boy is sleeping, it's the time to get things done!<br />
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Phew, what a week! This past week with my dad and sister was great! It was a long week, yet it was very short. Before they arrived, the weather forecast said it was going to be quite cold (-15C) the first couple of days they would be here, but the coldness came early and it wasn't that cold (-8C to -2C) during their visit. They even said it was "warm" the last couple of days they were here. Thankfully it wasn't that cold, as it allowed us to wander around downtown and be outside without freezing too badly.<br />
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We didn't really do too much while my dad and sister visited. The first day they were here was Finnish Independence day and no stores were open. So, all of us just took a walk around the neighborhood and let my family recover from traveling a bit. The rest of the time we spent downtown at the open air Christmas market, the stable yards (another open air market), in a few regular stores and then at home hanging out. Mainly we just wanted to spend time together, especially with Pax, which we did!<br />
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Paxlet seemed to enjoy the time with his Grandpa and Auntie. Lots of talking, smiles and laughs all around. Pax didn't have any problems with them holding him from day one, which is great because my family is just in love with our little guy. It was great seeing my dad with Paxlet. So sweet. gentle and loving. Paxlet looks (and is) so small when compared to my dad. I probably should have gotten some pictures that better showed their differences, especially the hands. My back was very thankful to have had other people holding Pax a lot of the time this past week. I hope this bit of respite for my back will continue.<br />
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My sister spent most of her money she brought with her to buy Christmas gifts. She made it clear when she arrived that that was her intent: she was going to spend as much as she wanted and how she wanted. The reason she stated it so clearly is that when she was here the first time (12 years ago), she was only 16 and my dad and I <strike>sort of</strike> controlled her the small amount of money she had and what she could or couldn't spend it on. This time around, she wasn't going to let that happen. LOL. She definitely spent it this time and had lots of fun doing it.<br />
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In typical male fashion, our dad's not so good about shopping. So my sister and I helped our dad with ideas for his Christmas shopping. To give him credit, our stepmom and one of our brothers aren't the easiest people to shop for. My sister and I do think we did a good job in helping him out though.<br />
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An added bonus to my dad and sister visiting is that they brought me and Pax tons of stuff! (Mr Siili didn't really want anything, but might benefit from some of the items, at least indirectly.) The biggest thing they brought me was a brand new laptop!!! Now there won't be any issues with Skype-calls with family whenever, not that there was issues before, but my stepmom felt otherwise. Other things that my dad and sister brought were:<br />
- two sheepskins (they were our mom's) that we can use in Paxlet's stroller during the winter to help him stay warm,<br />- some toys (wooden stacking boxes, giraffe finger puppet, wooden balls, driftwood blocks) and costumes (frog & dragon/dinosaur) for Pax,<br />- food and candy (brewer's yeast, cream of tartar, vanilla extract, food coloring, Reese's pieces trees & bells, (American) Smarties, grits, some cake mixes, tapioca pearls, Skittles & Starbursts, Lifesavers...),<br />- some paintings,<br />- a knitted lion my mom had made (it found it's way to me after all!!),<br />- toys that I ordered from Amazon for Pax (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/The-First-Years-Stack-Count/dp/B00005C5H4/ref=pd_sim_t_5">stacking cups</a>, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/BOOMERINGS%C2%AE-Links-by-Discovery-Toys/dp/B000IAKE3K">Boomerings</a> and <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-71050-Brilliant-Basics-Rock-a-Stack/dp/B00000IZQP/ref=pd_bxgy_ba_img_z">Rock-a-stack</a>)<br />
I am sure there is more stuff I'm just not remembering right now. I know for a fact that their suitcases are much lighter going home now.<br />
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My smiling baby boy has awoke from his nap so it is time to go play with him. I hope to write up a few stories from my dad and sister's visit. In the meantime, I'm wishing my dad and sister a safe and pleasant trip home! And happy birthday to my only sister!<br />
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On a random note, as I was waking downtown on Monday to a play group, I stopped to take some pictures of the beautiful snow, ice and steam cooking off the lake. On the trees there was some hoar frost. Which got me thinking about the word "whore", only I stooped couldn't figure out how it was spelled. Only hoar and huora (whore in Finnish) came to mind. So, as I'm enjoying this beautiful scenery, I'm thinking of whores.
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Close to Paxlet's 2 month birthday, neuvola scheduled a group neuvola meeting where the moms who had approximately 2 month old babies got to meet up. I <a href="http://rowan6.blogspot.fi/2012/10/ryhmaneuvola-ja-rokotetutkimus.html">mentioned this event</a> back when it happened and I'm still of the same opinion of it: not much will come out of it in terms of meeting other moms that might become friends to hang out with. As such, I've taken matters into my own hands.<br />
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Paxlet and I started testing out different mom & baby clubs/groups this last month. There are
many places and organizations that offer weekly events for
moms to attend with their babies, toddlers and young kids (under school age). Each of these places are slightly different from each other, but generally with the same idea. So far, we've tried out a few of these groups. We've been to some at
the Mannerheimin Lastensuojeluliiton (MLL) (Mannerheim Children's Protective Services), the local Lutheran churches, from the city and an international group
(privately run, but open to anyone). If Paxlet and I want, there are enough groups happening during the week (Monday through Thursday) that we can go to a different group each day, sometimes more than one each day, if we want.<br />
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There are two MLL groups we have gone to so far and one more that I am thinking of checking out. The first MLL group is for moms and babies under 1 year old. It lasts for 2 hours, but you don't have to stay the entire time. I like this group quite a bit for the main fact that all the kids are under a year. It is also quite nice to be with other moms who are on their first kid; the same situation as me. The second group I tried out just this past week for the first time and I'm not too sold on it. It is closer to home, but it is for kids of all ages and not very organized. Also, there is no sort of program, so everyone just runs around as they wish. Not that that is bad, but it is a bit crazy.<br />
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We've been to two different church groups, one a 5 minute walk from our home and the other a 45 minute walk (although, we go there by bus). The church groups are more meant for slightly older kids, but everyone is welcome. These groups are quite organized with an opening prayer, a couple of songs/hymns, a biblical story and then one more prayer before the older kids run off to get some juice and cookies. Then the kids either have a craft to do, especially if there is a holiday or event coming up, or they can play. During snack and play time, the adults (mostly moms, a couple of dads, grandmas and nannies) get a snack of their own and a chance to talk. Then the last 15 minutes, of the hour and a half, is spent with everyone together again singing and acting out some songs. I like these groups decently well, even with the churchy stuff.<br />
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The international group is the only one where I speak English, as some of the mom's are from other countries (and might now speak Finnish) or their partner is from another country. I like this group, because I can speak English, but there is no program whatsoever and some of the kids are a bit unruly, not to mention LOUD.<br />
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Now that we've tried some of the groups, I thinking of which ones I would like us to go to regularly. I also hope that by attending some of these groups a bit more, I will find a couple of moms who would like to meet outside of the groups for some play dates. I just worry that many of the moms will shy away from me because of my less than native Finnish speaking skills, even if I do speak and understand the language quite well. In any case, these groups are definitely helping to get us out of the house, give me some adult conversation and beat loneliness.<br />
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I'm thoroughly enjoying watching Paxlet grow, learn and discover new things. I am truly content to experience the here and now and to see what happens as he progresses at his own pace. But I'd be lying if I didn't admit I'll be happy when we sleep a bit longer at night and the boy's a bit more interactive (sitting on his own, baking with me, coloring, etc). But for now, I'll continue to enjoy the gorgeous smiles from my beautiful boy.<br />
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<b>Weight & Length:</b> We had our much waited for 3 month check up today and boy, oh boy! has Paxlet grown. He's up almost a kilo in weight: 7 kilos 175 grams (15,8 pounds)! And he's also grown 5 centimeters this month: 62,5 cm (24,6 inches).<br />
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<b>Sleeping:</b> We're still constantly only getting 2-3 hours of sleep at a stretch with the occasional longer stretch thrown in. It's usually not so bad, because most wake ups are Paxlet being hungry, for which I can give him a boob and we can both fall back asleep.<br />
Also, Paxlet generally falls asleep either on the boob or by being so tired and walked to sleep. I know I need to start teaching him to fall asleep without either of those, but when I don't have to go to work for a while still, I'm not so rushed yet.<br />
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<b>Eating: </b>Paxlet doesn't choke or gag while eating as much anymore. I believe it is because he is older and can handle it better when my milk lets down, although we do get the occasional chocking fit. He also hasn't had a cold since that first one at one month of age.<br />
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<b>Diapers:</b> I've tried cloth diapers once in the last month. The first attempt was fine. He wore it and dirtied it without any issues. I put a clean diaper on him right after that and he fussed to no end. We took it off and all was rosy again. I think it had to do with the lining of the 2nd diaper. It was a bit rougher and I think that is what Paxlet didn't like. I should try diapers again...<br />
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<b>Clothing:</b> He is wearing size 60-68, although mostly 62s and 68s (2-4 months). I prefer clothes that don't have zippers or buttons. Or, rather I wouldn't mind zippers so much, if they used snaps for the last inch or two at the top. I just hate the way zippers bunch and bulge on saggy little baby bodies shoving the clothes up into their chins.<br />
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<b>Hair:</b> Paxlet's hair is growing, slowly. It still looks like he doesn't have much hair, but there is more than before.<br />
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<b>Personality:</b> He's such a happy baby! Not only does he let us know how happy he is with his smiles, coos and talking, but he also lets us know when he isn't happy with something. Thankfully there isn't too much crying, but he is verbal with his desires.<br />
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<b>Milestones & Firsts:</b><br />
laugh out loud - I think we might have gotten a giggle/laugh on the 19th, but I am very sure that we got a full on laugh this past Monday night (26th). He wasn't staying asleep when I tried to put him down, several times, so I figured we'd try a bath with the new "bath support" I'd just bought earlier that day. Previously he hasn't really liked being in the bath and preferred showers, but after a few seconds hesitation, Paxlet decided he loved this bath support, grinned and then laughed! A real laugh! I can't wait to hear more of those.<br />
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Paxlet has been practicing the Finnish vowels: o-o-o-o, ah-ah-ah and he finds if funny when his dad goes through all the Finnish vowels (a, e, i, o, u, y, ä, ö). Paxlet gets a big grin on his face.<br />
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smile spontaneously - This has been happening for quite some time. Paxlet smiles when he wakes up from a nap, when he looks at one of us and we turn our attention to him and even more recently, he has started smiling at strangers (when we are at some of the baby & mom clubs).<br />
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roll over (one way) - We're only getting a half of a roll at the moment. By this I mean that Paxlet will go from his back to his left side and no further.<br />
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grasp a rattle held to backs or tips of fingers - Paxlet is grabbing things, like our fingers and clothing if it comes to near, but especially his spit rags! Spit rags are fun to chew on and coo into. He isn't grabbing things 100% of the time yet, as I still don't quite think he realizes those phalanges* at the end of his arms are his.<br />
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bear some weight on legs when held upright - This little boy couldn't be any happier when he is in a standing position. Paxlet does NOT want to passively lean back like we've seen many other babies do. He would rather be sitting up, with help. But even more-so, Paxlet would like to be standing! He's even pushed himself up to his feet a few times, with us supporting him of course. He gets the biggest grin on his face each time he accomplishes standing up.<br />
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keep head level with body when pulled to sitting - This is something that he does quite often, but not always. When he's tired his head will just loll back.<br />
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turn in the direction of a voice, particularly momma's - Paxlet does turn to my voice and even towards Mr Siili's at times. I think he is slowly taking notice of the cats too.<br />
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Paxlet and I started testing out different mom & baby clubs this month. We've found a couple that we like (more accurately, that I like as Paxlet is too small to do much yet). The first few times we went to one of these clubs, Paxlet just stared at people, furrowed his brow or looked like he was contemplating something serious, if he wasn't sleeping. The last couple of times he's actually smiled at people and talked with me a bit.<br />
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*We've been calling his fingers 'phalanges' after we saw Dr Temperance Brennan, in the TV series Bones, wiggler her fingers at a baby in one episode saying "look, dancing phalanges". Mr Siili and I giggled and have been doing it ever since.<br />
<img src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjS0zHxaBu7KAZDI0ulJBzGx68AKPT5HPhdzZfTsug2Zsckhe1Q652MEFWYoWZ89mpn2vEZXJ4EZOM0ly9AAqE0Gqp9oQ45G2mkrgRfqiTadobigutw0UiVagtBikVhQbTRIBXAFmx8JeY/" />JustHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05373768249873098150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931043345646665063.post-57879242926538750832012-11-24T10:00:00.000+02:002012-11-24T10:00:06.972+02:00Paxlet's grandpa and aunt coming to visitI can't remember if I've mentioned it or not (and I'm too lazy to go look), but my dad and sister are coming to visit at the beginning of December! That's right, Paxlet is going to meet his grandpa and aunt on my side of the family for the first time! I'm so freaking thrilled that they are coming! They'll only be here for a week, so we're going to have to pack a lot of stuff into that short time.<br />
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This will be only the second time anyone from my family has come to Finland in the 13 years I've lived here. The last time was 12 years ago when my grandma (dad's mom), dad and sister visited. My mom said she would visit if I ever got a child, but she didn't live to see this happen. So, having my dad, and sister, visit is the closest I'm going to get to that. This makes their visit all the more important and exciting.<br />
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I knew that when I moved half a world away to be with Mr Siili that it would be harder to see my family. I also knew my family doesn't travel much and that it would be and has been up to me (and Mr Siili) to go visit them. I've known this all along. But, now that Paxlet is here this reality is hitting me harder than I thought it would be. I'm coming to realize just how little Paxlet is going to see my side of the family, other than via the video Skype chats we have. And as my stepmom pointed out not too long ago, we'll mostly only be faces on a TV screen/computer monitor to each other.<br />
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There are some thoughts jumbled in my head and I'm not sure I'll be able to get them out in a way that conveys what I am feeling and thinking, but I'm going to try anyway.<br />
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In the past, my stepmom, mom and I had some issues. I feel that my stepmom and I have worked through some of them, at least enough to be civil and on decent terms again. With my mom, I feel we worked through things more, but nothing is ever perfect. My mom had told me that the one thing that would get her to travel and visit me in Finland was if I had a baby. Then my mom had a heart attack and died 6 months before I got pregnant. I never got to have my mom come see my life here and see that I am truly happy here. Before Paxlet was born, my stepmom and dad were excited to get their first grandchild. We were even Skyping most weekends and it was great. My dad even said he'd come visit once Paxlet arrived. Then, a few weeks after Paxlet was born, my stepmom wasn't so enthusiastic anymore and said that she just couldn't handle only seeing Paxlet via Internet. She needs to smell, hold and snuggle him, as she is a very hands on and 'irght in front of you' sort of person. It was also suggested that we (Paxlet, Mr Siili and I) travel to the US instead, my parents would pay. For several reasons, that's not happening, at least not for now. I was feeling extremely disappointed because I knew if my mom was here, she'd come visit. And when it looked as if my dad might not come visit, I was hurt. Immensely. It was just important to me that some part of my family make it here so see my boy and the idea of it not happening just left a big emotional hole in me. So, having my dad and sister! come visit me is so unbelievably cool! I would love it to be longer than a week, but I'm not going to complain!! We'll just have to make the most of the time we do have together.<br />
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In a nutshell, even though I have moved away from my family, they are still very important to me and I still need them. I'm just waiting until we have "beam me up, Scotty"-technology to make the trip 'home' a quick and painless one.<br />
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I hope everyone had a great Turkey-day. Here in Finland, it was a Thursday like any ol' other regular day. Except, it wasn't quite a regular any ol' day for me. Thanksgiving is my second most favorite holiday, after Halloween. And I totally miss Thanksgiving. I miss the food and the family getting together. Even after 13 years of being away from it, I still miss it dearly. So, I spent the day thinking of my family and not feeling very grateful.<br />
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I know I have a lot to be grateful for and generally I think I am grateful for what I have (most of the time anyway), but yesterday, I just wasn't feeling it. So while I read many blog posts and FB statuses about what other people were/are grateful for, I just couldn't bring myself to write anything. Today's another day and I'm in a better frame of mind and feeling much more grateful. <br />
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I'm grateful for...<br />
...my wiggly, drooling all over me & everything else, grinning, cooing, wanting to sit up-not leaned back little boy. He is the joy of my life! I am so thankful for him, even in the moments when I want a few minutes to myself.<br />
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...Mr Siili. I know I don't tell him enough that I am grateful for him. I will do better. He has put up with me and loved me for so many years and I know he'll continue to do so for many more.<br />
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...living in Finland where I am given the right to take at least 10 months of paid maternity leave. When I think about it, I already dread going back to work next spring, yet I know I am so lucky to have this chance to be at home with Paxlet for this long.<br />
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...my family and Mr Siili's family.<br />
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...my dad and sister coming to visit me next month. I've got a post partly written up on this subject and hope to post it this weekend.<br />
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...Rusty and Mansi. While I don't pay as much attention to the kitties now that Paxlet it here, I love them just the same and I'm glad they are in my life. Although, sometimes it's a love-hate relationship with Mansi, the spazzy and energetic youngster.<br />
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...the interest rates being insanely low for our home loan.<br />
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...every single person I've met online, face-to-face or not. You have all left a warm spot on my heart and in my life and helped me through some of the darkest days and rejoiced with me during the better ones. Thank you!<br />
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...being able to get around town by bus, with the stroller, for free.<br />
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...chocolate.<br />
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...momma & baby groups that I've been testing out to see if I can find some other moms that I might have something in common to hang out with.<br />
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And the list could go on forever, but I won't.<br />
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There really isn't too much in the way of foods that I eat that seem to bother him. We're lucky, I know it. So far we are sure that too much chocolate does it (eating a bit of chocolate doesn't seem to do it), onions might upset his tummy and the tandoori chicken I made at home from a pre-made sauce REALLY upset his tummy. Also, the one time I ate sweet potato, it gave me gas and it seemed Paxlet had issues too. I know some of the gassy, fussy issues a baby has can be just due to an immature digestive tract. But for the time being, I should definitely remember the few things that bother my boy and try to stay away from them for everyone's sake. <br />
<img src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjS0zHxaBu7KAZDI0ulJBzGx68AKPT5HPhdzZfTsug2Zsckhe1Q652MEFWYoWZ89mpn2vEZXJ4EZOM0ly9AAqE0Gqp9oQ45G2mkrgRfqiTadobigutw0UiVagtBikVhQbTRIBXAFmx8JeY/" />JustHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05373768249873098150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931043345646665063.post-62016716057141229782012-11-19T18:42:00.000+02:002012-11-19T18:42:02.497+02:00Update - Movie night with the girlsThe movie Breaking Dawn part 2 was great!! I am so glad I got to see the movie and I definitely want to see it again, but I'll wait until it comes out on DVD.<br />
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I was definitely nervous and apprehensive about leaving Paxlet home alone with Mr Siili. They did survive though. I was informed that Paxlet cried for 2 of the 4 hours (30min + 1,5hrs) I was gone. Mr Siili says he thinks Paxlet's tummy was bothering him. At least both were sleeping (for 20 minutes) when I got home.<br />
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Paxlet seemed a bit clingy the rest of that night and all of the next day. He was eating every hour to couple of hours. My breasts didn't feel like they had any milk (very flaccid and empty feeling) in them for the next 36 or so hours after I fed and pumped before going to the movie. Having Paxlet feed so often made me concerned about leaving him "alone" again so soon, so I decided to not go to my work christmas party. Even if Mr Siili did threaten me with no christmas gifts if I didn't go. Honestly, I don't need any christmas gifts this year, I have my little boy!<br />
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About the movie itself...<br />
There were sweet/romantic moments, sappy moments, funny moments and some exciting and scary moments. My emotions were all over the place! Without giving anything away, I do want to say that I was very surprised by one part of the movie. I mean, I was very! surprised! At first when 2 things happened, I wasn't happy with it and a bit (ok, a lot) shocked, but when the third thing happened I started crying. The tears just started flowing and nothing could stop them. It was my momma instincts kicking in and all I could do was think of my little guy and I was heart broken. Thankfully that feeling didn't last long during the movie, but it sure shook me up.<br />
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<p>I'll pump before leaving, change Paxlet's diaper and hopefully have him in bed asleep. I am sure I can do the last two and Mr Siili can always walk/rock the boy to sleep.</p>
<p>I know it is only a couple of hours, in the middle of the night.Let's see how it goes... </p>
<p>Oh, and then Friday evening is my work's xmas party... I plan on attending!<br>
- JustHeather</p>
</div>JustHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05373768249873098150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931043345646665063.post-75916518788646009052012-11-14T22:35:00.001+02:002012-11-14T22:35:32.927+02:00The holiday season is upon usI know this by several ways. The days are shorter and nights darker. Halloween has come and gone and Thanksgiving is near. All the stores have christmas <strike>crap</strike> stuff in them and christmas songs playing over the air. And I'm getting stressed and sad.<br />
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I love Halloween, but it isn't really celebrated here. Sure, in the last few years, you can find more Halloween costumes and related stuff in stores. Some daycare centers, kids clubs and schools have a day where kids get to dress up and adults go out to bars to drink. But there is no trick-or-treating and I get strange looks if I do dress up for the day. Even if it is only my devil's horns or cat ears. I miss Halloween.<br />
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And then comes Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving doesn't exist at all in Finland. And I miss turkey-day! I love the food! The getting together with family. And especially the food. But, the night before Thanksgiving, when I was 14, my grandmother (mom's side) passed away. Every year around this time of the year I think of her and everyone else who has moved on. Starting last year, that includes my own mom. I started thinking about my grandma and mom today. It made me cry.<br />
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After Thanksgiving comes christmas. Finnish christmas is different than what my family does in the US. I do like the Finnish christmas, it's just different. I especially like the food. It makes up for not having Thanksgiving. I do love the family time and being together. I also love baking cookies and other holiday treats. I'm very thankful I have Mr Siili's parents and that we spend christmas with them. It has definitely made the holidays easier.<br />
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But christmas itself, is still the same. I'm not a religious person, so the whole meaning of christmas doesn't really do anything for me. I've struggled for years to find meaning in the holiday. Something more than people just wasting money on gifts that people don't really need and also people being greedy for gifts they get. I hate the stress of gifts! Which is why for the last few years, and most likely this year too, I've taken to baking goodies for most everyone. (I have no idea if they like them, but I haven't heard any complaints.) As I said earlier, I like baking and I figure most people will like the treats, plus after the holiday season is over they won't have more junk laying around that they don't really need.<br />
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Once again, 'tis the season for me to think of family that is no longer with us. 'Tis also the season to stress once again what to do about christmas gifts. I know I'll feel better once I get a bit of sleep.<br />
Until then: Bah, humbug!<br />
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Yes, this is going to be one of <b>those</b> sickeningly sweet posts. Life is
definitely not perfect, far from it actually, but that is not what this
post is about. This post is about how after 4 years and 4 days of
waiting for Paxlet to be in my life, he is here and how it couldn't be any better.<br />
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Paxlet is such an easy baby. And it all started once I got pregnant. (Getting pregnant was the nightmare.) The pregnancy itself was easy and so was labor & delivery. Paxlet
was born healthy and full-full term, 8 days over the EDD, in fact. All of this
'easiness' has just continued in his life.<br />
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Paxlet doesn't cry that much, I can't remember a single episode going
anywhere near an hour. We haven't had to deal with colic, reflux, or
major upset stomach issues. Even when he is fussy or won't sleep, it's
only for a night or two and I am still able to get some sleep, just not
as much as I would like (pre-baby style).<br />
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Waking up next to a baby boy whose sparkling eyes light up when he
sees me, giving me the biggest grins and smiles while cooing to me,
makes up for any tiredness. I've come to look forward to the times he
wakes up, because I know there are lovely baby grins waiting for me. It
just melts my heart.<br />
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As Paxlet is getting older (he's only 10 weeks), his interactions
with me and the world are growing. Not only does Paxlet have long (and
meaningful) conversations with me (and Mr Siili), he also regularly
'talks' to his bunnies hanging from his bouncy seat, giving me a few
minutes to make tea and breakfast or get a little something done. It
seems every day I hear new sounds coming out of this sweet boy. In fact, just
yesterday I heard a piercing squeal of laughter that he hadn't done
before. All I could do was laugh at his cleverness.<br />
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There are so many little things I just love to watch Paxlet do. Such as seeing him taking notice of the images on the wallpaper next to his changing table, to sticking his tongue out in response to me and daddy or him licking everything he can get his tongue on. There's not much I don't love about Paxlet.<br />
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I can't wait to see what else the future brings us. I'm excited to see how he develops, what sort of person he becomes and learn just how smart he will be. In the mean time, I'm more than content to just be here, right now, with my little boy and see what he does.<br />
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Yes, this was a post about a mom who is head over heels and totally in
love with her baby boy. He just melts my heart in ways I never dreamt
of. <br />
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